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A person can act as they please, whether that act is a true perception of who they are is another thing. Someone may come across as someone who couldn’t give two shits about what people think of him or her, and they could act like they are fine the way that their lives are.
I have a friend like this. He’s not an immediate friend that I see everyday, but yes, I consider him a friend as I’ve known him my entire life and have spent many moments of enjoyment together. I’ve only just realized that this friend may be an exact representation of the above personality – someone who doesn’t care about what others think of him, someone who ACTS like he is absolutely fine the way they are. And now that I think of it, I have witnessed moments throughout the years where he let’s down this emotionally defensive act. Just little moments. Moments where I’ve seen the soft side that he hides, the side that cares about others and the side that has little self-esteem. And in these moments he is so vulnerable and it’s heartwarming. Heartwarming to see this person being nice, heartwarming to see this person show a little love… or at least trying in his way to show a little love, kindness and appreciation.
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It’s in these little short-lived moments where he is being totally honest. Totally honest about his feelings; even if he isn’t saying them, he lets down his guard for five seconds and he is totally honest. And when he is totally honest, he’s beautiful.
Honesty is no-doubt the most important quality in a friendship, relationship or social situation. It can also be the most beautiful. Something about letting someone know every honest facet of yourself. Opening your heart, your soul, to one person who can help you, not judge you and can end up loving you, letting them no little pieces of honesty that no one else knows.
As the years go on and I eventually see this friend of mine – maybe in one year, maybe in five years – I hope he grows into this passionate human being. I hope those little moments of honesty are replaced by large amounts of time. I hope the next time I see him we can relate on the same level. I hope he has the faith to open up and talk to me about anything in a way that friends of 17+ years should. I only hope honestly opens up hearts around the world.